How to Choose Your First Toy: The 2025 Beginner’s Guide to Pleasure Confidence
Choosing your first toy is a little like choosing your first self-care ritual, exciting, a tiny bit nerve-tingly, and completely yours.
Whether you’re exploring solo pleasure for the first time or looking to bring a new spark into your relationship, this pleasure guide is here to help you feel confident, informed and wonderfully at ease.
Let’s take the pressure out of the process and turn it into something soft, empowering, and beautifully fun.
1. Start With What You Want to Feel (Not What You Think You “Should” Buy)
Before you choose your first toy, get curious about what kind of experience you’re hoping for.
There’s no right or wrong answer — this is about you.
Ask yourself:
-Do I want gentle, surface-level pleasure?
-Am I curious about deeper sensation?
-Do I want something discreet and easy to use?
-Am I exploring alone, or with a partner?
-Do I want something simple, or something more advanced?
This little moment of honesty makes choosing your beginner sex toy far easier, and far more exciting.
NIROBI Tip: You’re not choosing a lifetime partner, you’re choosing a starting point. You can always upgrade later.
2. Keep It Simple — That’s the Secret to Confidence
For your first toy, simplicity is your superpower.
You want something:
-Small or medium sized
-Quiet
-Rechargeable
-Soft, body-safe silicone
-Easy to control
Simple toys help you explore sensation without overwhelm — and help you build confidence at your own pace.
Great first choices:
-A classic bullet vibrator
-A small external vibrator
-A slim, flexible beginner-friendly internal vibe
-A soft-touch suction-style toy
-A small plug (for anal-curious beginners)
NIROBI TIP: we highly recommend the NIROBI Pro Bullet For Beginners if you've never used any type of vibe before.
3. Understanding Toy Types Helps You Choose (Without Getting Lost)
Here’s your quick beginner’s guide: simple, clear, and not overwhelming.
External Vibrators (Great for ALL bodies)
Perfect for those who want gentle-to-intense surface-level sensations.
-Ideal for first-time users
-Great for solo or couples
-Usually discreet and quiet
Internal Vibrators
Slimmer, softer, and shaped for comfortable exploration.
-Great for anyone curious about internal play
-Choose flexible and non-intimidating shapes
Suction or Air-Pulse Toys
A favourite among beginners who want a different kind of sensation.
-Focus on external pleasure
-No penetration needed
-Surprisingly beginner-friendly
Anal Toys (Beginner Plugs)
For those curious about new sensations — all genders welcome.
-Always start small
-Soft silicone only
-Pair with plenty of water-based lube
Couples Toys
For those exploring pleasure together.
-Wearable toys
-Remote-controlled toys
-Shared wands or external vibes
4. Lube Is Not Optional — It’s a Confidence Booster
Especially for beginners.
Water-based lube reduces friction, boosts comfort, and helps your toy glide smoothly across the skin.
It’s safe for all toys, all bodies, and all levels of experience.
NIROBI Tip: A good first toy + a good water-based lube = instant pleasure confidence.
5. Think About Controls, Noise & Discretion
If you’re new to toys, choose something:
-Low-noise
-Easy to hold
-Simple buttons
-Soft on the skin
-Rechargeable
You don’t need dozens of settings.
You just need a few speeds you can grow with.
Looking for discreet? Bullets and slim vibes are the quietest and easiest to hide.
6. If You’re Choosing a Toy for Couples Play…
Think about:
-Positions you enjoy together
-How comfortable you both are with toys
-Whether you want something wearable or handheld
-Whether you want remote or app control
Beginner couples often love:
-Slim wearables
-External toys
-Soft silicone plugs
-Small wand-style massagers
Shared pleasure builds communication and confidence, and often brings out a playful side too.
7. Start with an Entry-Level Toy… UPGRADE Later
Your first toy should feel approachable, friendly and unintimidating.
Once you know what you like, you can upgrade to:
-More powerful wands
-Dual-stimulation toys
-Remote-controlled toys
-Luxury silicone designs
-App-enabled pleasure tech
Beginners often end up loving:
-A bullet vibrator → upgraded to a rabbit
-A suction toy → upgraded to premium air-pulse
-A slim plug → upgraded to a weighted or shaped one
-A simple vibe → upgraded to a wand
Your pleasure journey has chapters, you’re just starting the first one.
8. A Quick 2025 Confidence Checklist
When choosing your first toy, ask:
✔ Is it body-safe silicone?
✔ Is it beginner-friendly in size?
✔ Is it quiet and comfortable to hold?
✔ Does it support the kind of sensations I want to explore?
✔ Does it feel empowering — not intimidating?
If the answer is “yes,” you’ve found your first toy.
Final Thoughts: Pleasure Is Personal — Confidence Is Everything
Choosing your first toy isn’t about getting it “perfect.”
It’s about choosing something that feels soft, supportive and exciting — a tool for exploring your confidence, your comfort, and your beautiful body at your own pace.
You deserve pleasure that feels empowering. Pleasure that feels safe. Pleasure that feels like you.
Explore NIROBI’s Beginner Collection — gentle toys, soft silicone, quiet motors, and everything you need for your first step into pleasure confidence.
